Part Of The Problem

I have known this has been a big problem in my stepsons life since he was little when he would come to us for visitation weekends (every second weekend) and he would wake up in tears and screaming from nightmares from movies (like Chucky at age 3, Saw at age 8, The Kingsman at age 11 ) he would watch these inappropriate movies with his mother and sister (who is 7 years older than him). Each time his father and I would be horrified that he had been allowed to view/watch these disgusting and disturbing materials and there is nothing we could do (apart from already discussing all issues including these with his mother in several meditations which failed every time because it’s not a refection of her behaviours and her parenting and we have talked to my stepson till we are blue in the face about how inappropriate these movies are and not to watch them if he doesn’t want to) because his mother had custody and the right to raise him as she sore fit and that was to be his “friend” and not his parent.

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It has become very clear to me after watching  DEADPOOL (which my stepsons sister took him to see last year when he was 12 and once again we didn’t know till after the fact when stepson had told us he’s already seen it we looked at the reviews at the time and were appalled once again that his mother had let her son see this type of movie) for only maybe 10 minutes or so when (Wade and Vanessa are comparing how bad their lives are and Wade confides he had been molested by his uncle and Vanessa counters that she had been molested by multiple uncles and that they took turns) (anyone who knows my past would know why this was a point of no return for me and why it upset me so and to stop watching the rest of the movie) just how much of a problem viewing/watching this content has become and how much it has influenced his current behaviour (which is in the toilet at present) and why he is using the worst swear words in history and saying them with such anger it’s scary and no wonder he is being disrespectful to the women in his lives (including me) It’s partly because he is allowed to view/watch such content and not only allowed but it’s deemed as :”funny” and “acceptable” behaviour in his household.

My stepson needs a lot of help at current and I’m not sure how to do that when we are only in his life for school holidays it’s very hard and sad that this is how it is for my stepson and others seem to think that this is in the best interest of the child.

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A Very Witcher 3 Christmas :)

Merry Xmas my fellow Bloggers, I thought I would update you all on how my Christmas day so far has been I woke up at 10 to 6 this morning I couldn’t sleep anymore even though I felt like I only had 10 mins of sleep the whole night (even though I went to bed around 9 pm last night) I lied on the couch listening to Spotify which has been my bed for two weeks as we have had my stepson down here for the holidays and he has a single bed in his room and a computer which is his fathers which I was using both before he came down.

I took my Thyroid tablet this morning at 7 am I didn’t want to miss taking it like I did on Thursday when I woke up with a headache and took headache tablets instead and forgot my Thyroid ones causing me to feel a whole lot worse which means the tablets are working in some way at least.

My man woke up a bit after 7 am so I opened my pressie from my mum that I bought back with me from Cairns when we were up there visiting them and collecting my stepson for the school holidays. When I opened the beautifully wrappped pressie I had mixed emotions she gave me a beautiful new hand bag Look what I found on #zulily! Tulips & Tweets Regina Crossbody Bag…: (which is made of recycled plastic bottles which is very cool) I was very happy because it is beautiful but at the same time I was sad because I can’t take it shopping and show it off at our local shopping centre as I am too fatigued to do so ( I had a cry which I needed and felt better after that) I rang my mum and stepdad and thanked them very much for the Chrissy Pressie. We also got two beautiful Christmas cards with red gem stones on the front and pop out pressies which we both thought was cool with scratch tickets from my mans parents I won $7 dollars and my man won $4 dollars so $11 bucks is better than nothing hey it’s the thought that counts right.

Then my man showed me what he had bought me which was the game of the year The Witcher 3 on PC https://youtu.be/Ly69catDsU4 I played The Witcher 2 last year on the xbox 360 and I loved it so I’m very happy to have received the next instalment of this game franchise.

My man opened his Xmas pressie from my mum which was Beer lol so he was happy to have something to de-stress himself later on in the day. My man hasn’t decided what he wants from me yet and as I can’t go shopping he said he will go to the boxing day sales tomorrow and have a look otherwise he will look online and buy something lol.

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My stepson opened our Chrissy pressie from us which he was wanting and needing because his other keyboard and mouse was broken apparently he was very happy and called it a “sic” pressie lol.

We had some relaxation time after opening all our pressie’s I got a few phone calls from my Dad and my three brothers and my best friend who made me laugh (as always and I love her for that) which was much needed to cheer me up 🙂

My Darling man made a wonderful Aussie BBQ Lunch (char-grilled tomato, grilled onions, mushroom, two snags(sausages) a rash of bacon with garlic aioli sauce) and for Dessert a chocolate bomb with Brandy custard)it was very yummy but very rich. After feeling full and in our food coma’s us adults went for a rest/sleep and my stepson went back on the xbox one and was reasonably quiet for once.

Question: Do you think it’s unreasonable to ask a 13 and a half year old to be quiet whilst playing a video game console as you aren’t feeling well and need a few hours rest?

I woke up at 1 am Tuesday night and couldn’t go back to sleep until 3 am then woke up at 6 am feeling very tired and run down as usual these days when my stepson woke up at 10 am and woke me in the process Wednesday morning I asked him to be quiet whilst playing as I was feeling unwell and didn’t sleep well I told him if he couldn’t be quiet he would have to be kicked off the xbox one and he would have to go to his room and play on the computer which has his own hard drive in it with his own games to play he said yes he would be quiet and after giving him 3 warnings for being extremely loud ( I could hear him through two doors, two walls and over my loud Spotify which I was trying to drown him out with so I could rest/sleep which I was in badly need of because of my fatigue and health issues at current) throughout the morning/afternoon. It wasn’t just his loudness that was getting to me it was the way he was speaking to his “friends” on the xbox one he would call them very disgusting names: Idiots, Dogs, Retards, F’ers, Dix(but meaning boys genitalia) and the worst one Dumb C’s it’s most upsetting to see someone you love behaving like this and it’s hard when you are kept in the dark on what is going on in his life by his custodial guardian i.e his mother.

I went to him and said that’s it I have given you 3 warnings as I informed you I would if you kept up the loudness so now you have to go to your room and play on the computer please he said NO and so I grabbed the remote for the TV and turned the tele off and then I grabbed the remote control for the xbox (which shocked him as I have never done anything like this ever before and I don’t think anyone else has to him eithermaybe don’t know because his mother never tells us anything or never talks to us she relays things she wants us to know via her son my stepson) he said I’m ringing my mother I said go ahead I’m ringing your father and so I did luckily his father was half way home it wasn’t till his father got home that he cried because he knew he was in trouble but that didn’t stop him from being loud that afternoon. So I got no sleep and was in bed at 6pm that night.

The next morning (Thursday) I woke up with the headache which I was taking about earlier and my stepson came to me asking me to put the password in the xbox (we had to password it because he has purchased games without asking us in the past so now it’s passworded which my stepson doesn’t like it being) I said NO because I have a headache and I need a rest for it to go away he slammed the door and called me a F’ing something (I couldn’t hear it as he walked away thank god) he came back and asked me again I said no again and he said but I’m bored I said you have a computer to use, netflix or I could get you a book to read if you want he said all that is boring I said go and play on the computer so I can get rid of this headache I will come to you when I feel a little better ok off he went and I went to sleep for a hour and a half and I went to him I ask him to have a chat with me which he did then he didn’t want to listen to me and stormed off then 10 mins later asked me to come and watch him play on the computer I said let me go for a shower as I haven’t got out of my PJ’s and I reek so I did that and we had a good afternoon and he was quiet on the Xbox the rest of the day.

Friday morning he came to me with his usual “can you put the password in please” (at least he knows the word please I will give him that one) I said before I do anything I want to tell you how my night was and how my morning was I told him that once again I was awake at 1.3o am and had trouble going back to sleep and that I also had been to the toilet twice with constipation and then again with diarrhea so here is a question for you “how do you think you should behave today” he said good I said please and what happens if your not good what’s the consequences he said I will get kicked off the xbox I said yes and if I ask you to do that will you he said yes I said please and then I said I hope we both can have a good day today and it goes well fingers crossed off we both went and he was a complete Angel all day I praised him every so often throughout the day and told him I love him I went out to check on him again at 4pm and to my surprise he hopped off the xbox and was on the computer at his own accord I told his father about how wonderful he had been and they went down to the shops to get us a pizza as reward for his good behaviour.

What Is Your Fave Xmas Presents ?

When I was writing yesterdays blog about what I want from Santa it got me thinking back to what favourite pressies I got as a child and now as a adult and here they are:

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At 7 years old I got this Xmas pressie a beautiful Rainbow Brite push bike I rode it around and around our cane farm house we had a dirt road that went all the around our half quarter property I think I drove everyone mad with me ringing the bell every time I went past my family and extended family out in the front yard lol. I remember giving my mum a hard time at lunch time because I didn’t want to stop riding my bike even to eat which for me meant I loved my bike more than food which was a big deal and it probably was the fastest I had ever eaten too as even to this day I eat very slowly which I know frustrates people who eat fast I just can’t unless it’s dessert lol.

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At 8 years old  I got this Xmas pressie a baby born I loved it because it could do all the things a baby does cry, laugh, pee, poo and you could feed it and give it a bottle with real liquids that came out the other end lol ( a few years later I let my friend play with it and she decided and convinced me to put real dog poo in my baby born and lets just say that was the demise of my baby born lol). Little did I know that this would be a precursor to my real career later in life as a Childcare Educator and will have to look after real live babies/children/teens who do a lot more than a baby born does lol.

Honourable mentions: I also loved receiving video games and clothes as well. Any clothes I would get I would wear for Christmas day.

Adult:

My  favourite Xmas presents now as a Adult are Video Games and Clothes and I also like gift cards because you get to choose what you need/want. I also have always been very grateful for anything I would receive as I know that there is other children and adults out there in the world who would be lucky to get water and food or even be alive on Christmas day and I know how blessed I am to have all of that and much more.

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My Rad Bloggers What was/is your favourite Xmas Presents you got from Santa when you were a Child and now as a a Adult ?

Happy 13th Anniversary :)

13 years years ago I was out for our Christmas party with my work mates, daycare kids parents and friends combined my winggirls  (I still keep in contact with them all via Facebook). One of my work mates Angie had to call into where her boyfriends xmas party was to say hello to him so we all went to a bar called The Mad Cow in Cairns. Angie went over to her boyfriend Wes and us girls went to the dance floor to dance a few minutes later Angie comes over grabbing me by the hand and says you have to meet John he is a really nice guy so feeling all excited I go with her to meet this John guy she introduced us and we started talking it turned out he was from the same little town Gordonvale that we both grew up in he told me used to be a mechanic at Trembath’s and that he used to service my whole family’s cars and I told him that I used to go there with my family to pick the cars up he said to me “where did your family hide you in the basement” lol. We kept on talking we found out that we both were into computers and gaming and he bought me a drink because he was looking after his works money for drinks we kept talking then we went for a dance then I needed a drink of water and then he asked me if he could take me for a walk along the esplanade he gave the money to Wes and we went for a walk and some more talking it turned out that his sister and my best friend used to go to girl guides together and were friends which spun me out. After walking and talking we got to the end of the esplanade and John said he had to go to the toilet (we both had few to drinks lol) so off he went I stood there waiting which seemed like forever (a few weeks later I found out why he went down to the sand and couldn’t get back up lol I’m glad he did in the end) he came back to me and we decided to walk back to Macca’s to catch a taxi while we waited for the taxi we exchanged our phone numbers (I couldn’t keep my eye’s off his beautiful eye’s they were amazing) the taxi came I asked him where he lived he said Woree I said I’m at Mooroobool it’s on the way why don’t you came with me (smart thinking so he knew where I lived hehehe). So I got home and said goodbye to him with a kiss on the cheek and he left for his place I walked in the door and told my mum all about him and that I think he maybe the ONE mum. We went on several dates over the next week (the first one he took me on was to Mondo’s it’s one of the most expensive restaurants in Cairns he told me about his son and everything he needed to tell me and to ask if I wanted to leave and never see him again he would understand unbenounced to him my workmate Ange had filled me in before hand so I had time to think about it and know about it. I was relived he told me the truth as my previous relationship was full of lies from my ex.) We saw each other for a year and then he asked me to move in and the rest is history. Image result for love emoji

I know what I want to ask Santa for Xmas this year and that is to get better. What do you want to ask Santa for this year ?

This Is Utterly Ridiculous

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This is a ginormous problem here in Australia and it’s not viable for our government to keep giving fists full of cash out to people who are using and abusing our way to generous system we have here. It’s destroying our “Lucky” country and turning generations of our people into sponges soaking up all our very hard working taxpayers money and it has to stop before we have no money left to support the people who honestly really need the money and are not going to just piss it up against the wall because they feel “entitled” to spend their  sorry our governments money until the cows come home.

On our 9.5ish hour drive home from Cairns to Mackay with my stepson yesterday when we stopped at Townsville to get fuel and lunch my stepson says to me “I don’t know which thing I want when I get older a car, a boat or a motorbike they all “only” cost $100,000 I just can’t decide which one I want” My reply was ” Well judging by your current school marks your going to be “lucky” to get $100 to spend on things because you will be lucky to get maybe $250 a fortnight on the dole unless you can improve on your schooling which I hope you do and get a high paying job like a doctor or lawyer then you will be able to spend your well earned money on whatever your heart desires because that’s what you deserve the best in life “.  I asked him if he knew what his report card said he said I don’t know so I told him because I don’t keep information from him I’m very honest with him his reaction was I don’t care so I said “oh well you won’t care when you can’t afford your “only” $100,000 luxury item then will you”.

I agree with Pauline Hanson about that more money needs to be invested in the family law courts because why is it that the full custodial parent is allowed to let their child fail in life and become so dependant upon the system by their needy and controlling ways and that’s fine with our current system. It’s supposed to be “What’s in the best interest of the child” isn’t it and if that’s missing 62 days off school for the year and failing miserably going with out food and sleep at times has one uniform for the year and not getting the required medical/dental help needed then it’s job well done family law courts for giving his mother custody of my stepson she has turned him into a outstanding member of our society and my stepson is thriving in life NOT (I wish he was and we had nothing to complain about then we all would be a lot happier and that’s what I want for my stepson is to be happy and have the best in life (because I love him very much) which he is currently clearly not and that is what makes me sad)..

 

What Are We To Do ?

Well we just got my stepsons report card and I wish I could say it was the best one so far but unfortunately it’s the worst yet and I’m afraid it’s only going to get harder for him from here on in here’s the run down for the second semester grade 8:

ENGLISH  C   Effort: Satisfactory Behaviour: Needs Attention

MATHEMATICS   D   Effort: Needs Attention Behaviour: Needs Attention

SCIENCE  D    Effort: Needs Attention Behaviour: Needs Attention

GEOGRAPHY   D    Effort: Needs Attention Behaviour: Needs Attention

HEALTH AND PHYSICAL EDUCATION C    Effort: Needs Attention Behaviour: Needs Attention

MEDIA ARTS   E  Effort: Needs Attention Behaviour: Needs Attention

TECHNOLOGY  D  Effort: Needs Attention Behaviour: Satisfactory

JAPANESE   D   Effort: Needs Attention Behaviour: Satisfactory

He shows interest in his class work but sometimes needs reminders and supervision to complete a task to the required standard.(Stepson’s name) behaves in a satisfactory manner only when closely supervised. That’s the overall comment made on the report card.

Now here is the reason why he is failing dismally is he has missed a total of 62 days off school and there are 16 unexplained absences total for the year. We have in the past written his mother letters asking her to make sure she sends him to school get him the care he needs in all areas nothing happens we have gone to several mediation’s with his mother to talk about his health, well being and schooling and nothing happens we have gone to the dept of child safety with our concerns and nothing happens we have asked the police about our concerns and nothing happens we have gone to the school itself and nothing happens my mother in law wrote a letter to the minister of education (who’s a politician) and nothing happens my man is fed up with paying child support ($768 per month currently) for these disgraceful results.

This is what happens when parent is the “friend” and not the parent she has never enforced any rules whatsoever (except to have “fun” as long as you are having “fun” that’s all that matters ) you are allowed to run riot and do what you want when you want so no bed times no allocated meal times which is usually fast food lack of medical and dental care and lack of sleep which causes lack of concentration (as I am currently experiencing myself due to my illness) What makes me mad is my stepson is always ringing us wanting not needing things which are expensive like a new graphics card for his computer (which is only a year old and he is lucky to have it because his mother paid for half (the first time she has helped pay for anything) and we paid the other half ) and yet he isn’t performing to our level that we set him to receive such things (which was to at least pass English and Maths and maybe Science and miss less than 5 days off school each term) It’s so frustrating to see someone you love dearly struggling through school because of his mothers bad choices and lack of parenting skills and you feel helpless to help him which we have tried to over the years by buying workbooks for English and Maths for him to work on when we have him for school holidays but when a child tells you reading and writing is dumb (where does he get that from I wonder) and I’m on holidays I’m not doing homework on the holidays it makes things incredibly difficult.

Looks like we are going to have yet another great Christmas now aren’t we NOT I just don’t know what to do to help him anymore I feel like we are just hitting our head against a brick wall..

Merry Xmas Fraudsters

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This is what annoys me about all this is that these people on the dole lie about their current income and circumstances (relationships) and scam to get maximum payments from the government. If your on a “single” parent pension and you meet a women/man and move them in and the new girlfriend/boyfriend has a job and they help prop up the supposed “single” parent pensioner for a few years and then one day you get caught out by Centerlink that you aren’t in fact “single” and you get your dole payments cut so you move the girlfriend/boyfriend back out to be supposed “single” again but that doesn’t actually mean they have split up they could be still propping up that “single” parent pensioner it just means that they are no longer living together. The other thing is most dole recipients use sites like Ebay, Gumtree and buy swap sell to sell there things (even their children’s) to get more money which is not declared I have even seen on Facebook people swapping food/clothing etc items for free so when they say I can’t afford to feed my family that’s a load of BS it really is.

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Here is a clip for those dole bludgers who say they can’t afford food for their children (even milk apparently according to a teen I know who says “wow are you getting ready for a apocalypse” every time he opens our and his grandparents pantry’s). All they have to do is stop smoking, drinking, eating fast food and gambling and save some money and they too could be savvy with their food and other shopping. So lets raise a glass (I wish mine will be filled with water, cordial, juice, coffee or milo) and say Merry F***ing Christmas Fraudsters I hope the Karma Dog comes and bites you on the arse (ooh I’m Evil lol).

I wish I could have my old life back I would give anything right now to have it back. I loved having a job and contributing to society and to myself I could go shopping and buy whatever I needed/wanted I could help with paying bills or the food shopping I hate having to depend on others it’s very frustrating not to be able to help in any way I hope one day I will be better and can payback my man ten fold for all his unconditional love and support etc through this horrible time. I’m so blessed to have him in my life and he truly is my hero.

Rockabye

This is the new No 1 here in Aus I am actually a bit conflicted by this song as it’s about the hardships of being a single mother as you all know I’m a stepmother to a almost 14 year old teenager who for school terms lives with his “single mother” which was her choice she left my man on the day of my stepsons birth and went back home to live with her parents she claimed that my man abused her so she could get full custody and full child support from my man (which was thrown out of court because it’s was all false accusations) along with full government benefits for being a “single mother” she has worked 2 out of almost 14 years she has lied and scammed her way through every department (there are too many to mention) in the system playing her woe is me, poor me “single parent” card violin to get every cent possible from our very to generous system. Lets look at the lyrics shall we:

 

Call it love and devotion
Call it a mom’s adoration
Foundation
A special bond of creation, ha
For all the single moms out there
Going through frustration
Clean Bandit, Sean-da-Paul, Anne-Marie
Sing, make them hear

She works the nights, by the water
She’s gone astray, so far away
From my father’s daughter
She just wants a life for her baby
All on her own, no one will come
She’s got to save him (Daily struggle)

She tells him, “Ooh, love, no one’s ever gonna hurt you, love
I’m gonna give you all of my love
Nobody matters like you”
(Stay out there, stay out there)

She tells him, “Your life ain’t gon’ be nothing like my life
You’re gonna grow and have a good life
I’m gonna do what I’ve got to do”
(Stay out there, stay out there)

So, Rockabye baby, Rockabye
I’m gonna rock you
Rockabye baby, don’t you cry
Somebody’s got you
Rockabye baby, Rockabye
I’m gonna rock you
Rockabye baby, don’t you cry
Rockabye, no

Rockabye-rocka-rocka-rocka-bye
(Rockabye, yeah oh oh)
Rockabye-rocka-rocka-rocka-bye

Single mama you doing out there
Facing the hard life, without no fear (Yeah)
Just so you know that you really care
Cause any obstacle come you’re well prepared (Oh no)
And no mama, you never shed tear
Cause you have to shed things year after year
And you give the youth love beyond compare (Yeah)
You find his school fee and the bus fare (Yeah)
Mmm Marie, the pops’ disappear
In the round back can’t find him nowhere
Steadily you work flow, everything you know
Say you nah stop no time – no time for your jear

Now she got a six-year-old
Trying to keep him warm
Trying to keep out the cold
When he looks in her eyes
He don’t know he is safe

When she says “Ooh, love, no one’s ever gonna hurt you, love
I’m gonna give you all of my love
Nobody matters like you”

So, Rockabye baby, Rockabye
I’m gonna rock you
Rockabye baby, don’t you cry
Somebody’s got you
Rockabye baby, Rockabye
I’m gonna rock you
Rockabye baby, don’t you cry
(Oh-badda-bang-bang-bang, alright then)
Rockabye, no

Rockabye-rocka-rocka-rocka-bye
(Rockabye, yeah oh oh)
Rockabye-rocka-rocka-rocka-bye

Rockabye, don’t bother cry
Lift up your head, lift it up to the sky
Rockabye, don’t bother cry
Angels surround you, just dry your eye

Now she got a six-year-old
Trying to keep him warm
Trying to keep out the cold
When he looks in her eyes
He don’t know he is safe when she says

She tells him, “Ooh, love, no one’s ever gonna hurt you, love
I’m gonna give you all of my love
Nobody matters like you”
(Stay out there, stay out there)

She tells him, “Your life ain’t gonna be nothing like my life (stay)
You’re gonna grow and have a good life
I’m gonna do what I’ve got to do”
(Stay out there, stay out there)

So, Rockabye baby, Rockabye
(Rockabye-rocka-rocka-rocka-bye)
I’m gonna rock you
Rockabye baby, don’t you cry
(Rockabye-rocka-rocka-rocka-bye)
Somebody’s got you
Rockabye baby, Rockabye
(Rockabye-rocka-rocka-rocka-bye)
I’m gonna rock you
Rockabye baby, don’t you cry
(Oh-badda-bang-bang-bang, alright then)
Rockabye

Rockabye, don’t bother cry
Lift up your head, lift it up to the sky (Rockabye)
Rockabye, don’t bother cry (Yeah)
Angels surround you, just dry your eye (Yeah)

Rockabye, don’t bother cry (No)
Lift up your head, lift it up to the sky (Oh)
Rockabye, don’t bother cry
Angels surround you, just dry your eye

My response to each section of the lyrics:

More like this is my meal ticket. (first bit )

Like I said she has only worked for 2 years the rest she has sat on her ass receiving
Government payments. (second bit)

If this were true why does she put her girlfriends before her son every time.(third bit)

I wish this were true she hasn’t taught him any life skills and he will be following in her footsteps living on Centerlink (fourth bit)

She has lots to fear because of all her lies and she can’t budget her “money” (payed for by my man and the government ) she screens her calls because she
is in so much debt with everyone she deals with                                                                                   that they are after her and she has to sleep with a light
on at night. She gets approximately $45,000 and
she can’t afford school fee’s or bus fares or even school uniforms and shoes but can afford cigarettes, alcohol, fast food and go gambling on the pokies get your priorities right hey. (Seventh bit)

She has lied to her son  where the money comes from and that his father has paid nothing until recently but even that’s not correct the amount she says now she “only” gets is
$500 from his father when he actually pays $768 per month That’s parental
alienation at it’s best. (the rest)

 

I have said it before and I will say it again there are a lot of good “single mothers” out there ( I know a few of them personally) but there are also some bad ones too. What makes me the most upset and angry about all this is the fact that I can’t have children of my own (If I did I would want everything and more for my child/children) and there are people out there who are blessed to be a mother but they haven’t given everything they could to their child/childen they could have saved up all their money they are given (not worked for) and bought a house they could have put even $5 dollars away every week for emergencies like for the doctors or dentists or anything the child needs (not wants) instead it’s all just wasted and when the child turns 18 they will have to scam off someone else or even their child/children (if they taught him everything and made him go to school maybe he would be able to get a fantastic job like a doctor or lawyer and provide for you themselves) instead he will be struggling just like you because usually history repeats and the curtain closes till the next generation is born and then it will be again the entitled, no work ethic burns through money legacy will continue on and on and on.

I came across this while searching the latest no 1 song above if I could have children this would be something I would indulge then in lol:  https://open.spotify.com/album/5jhCeQyNbAP3ibLJP0kV6M

This is locally stored in my computer I might even use it for myself as I have been having trouble sleeping (it doesn’t help when the neighbours play their music loud and it goes through the walls) god I sound old lol.

My Health Update:

not much to update as I rang the hospital (that’s where my endocrinologist is located)  back last Thursday just to see if they got the referral that was faxed through from my doctor they said we can’t because we get so many you can try and ring mid next week and see if it’s there. Well that’s not going to be good timing as we have to drive (well my man will be doing all the driving again this time as I’m unfit to drive currently due to me being fatigued ) 9.5 hours sometimes 10 to pick up my stepson for the Christmas school holidays (which his mother has “only” helped once with “only” because she had a girlfriend down here and she didn’t do the trip in one day she did it in two days) Not once has she in nearly 14 years said to us here is some money for fuel or food or clothes or anything it would be nice because when she doesn’t have him she is not paying for him at all and if she really cared about her son she would be ringing us up to see how I am and if I’m even able to look after her son as his father has to work to provide for two families as he is the “only” one who is actually working to pay for everyone in two households ( he is also looking after me cooking, cleaning, food shopping and driving me to my doctors appointments etc) not just a text which asks when and what time we are picking him up and then the actual day we arrange to pick him up you play games and change times and locations and stress us out.  I can see that this will drag on and on and I probably won’t get any new answers before my birthday in June from my specialist.